An Open Letter

October 26, 2015


Dear you -- my dearest you,
I knew before I went right into the next couple steps in my life, I needed to write to you. I needed to explain. To explain the hiatus. To explain what is happening to me, and thus to Neckbreakin’ Style






Dear you -- my dearest you,

I knew before I went right into the next couple steps in my life, I needed to write to you. I needed to explain. To explain the hiatus. To explain what is happening to me, and thus to Neckbreakin’ Style

Life is funny. Which is probably why I find myself laughing so often. Because it’s never the big thing that completely changes you. It’s that and a series of smaller events. It is then this formless growing consciousness that drives you to take that biblical leap. That leap that everyone remembers. This growing consciousness is the aftermath of several big moments and many smaller moments. Just to name a few — I moved to New York City, lost most of my closest friends from home, ended a very serious relationship, gained some of the most amazing friends, lost a few more, maintained a few hopefully lifelong ones, traveled until I was dead broke, met my grandfather and uncles for the first time, found a deeper appreciation for my brothers, met someone special, didn’t work out, either, found myself spiritually on a bed alone in Dominican Republic, had drunken epiphanies with strangers, sober ones with friends, denied drugs in a bathroom with two girls I've never met before, and every bit in-between all of that. If I could describe it visually, it would be like two puzzle pieces clicking together, then three, then four, then twenty each arriving at an AHA moment. And so I knew. I finally understood, so clearly, my next step or few steps. 

Neckbreakin’ Style started out as fashion blog. I had all the intentions of it being more because I believed in more. But I didn’t understand it. Not yet. I didn’t know what I really wanted, which made expressing it even more difficult. Don’t be mistaken. Everything I’ve done up until this point has been and is genuine. I just placed imaginary limitations on what I talked about because of fear. The fear of the potential consequences beyond what my mind can ever wrap around or be prepared for. The very deep fear of what people may think of my friends, my family, and of all of me. And then the fear of what I would think of me.  My personal life, which I've worked so hard to straddle the line between private and public, will now just be public. But I tested that fear and wrote an intimate blog post about my mother and my grandfather. The response left an impression on me. After sitting on that for weeks, even months, after talking about it constantly with friends, people I just met, someone struck a string in me. It was so simple. He said, “Lynn, if you’re going to do something. Go all the fucking way or don’t do it at all.” Not doing it at all is not a possibility for me.

So now, now I know. I understand. Neckbreakin’ Style will become a Personal Experience blog. This blog will still have the personal style, the lifestyle, the imagery, and of course, my voice. What will change is the dialogue. Each story will be as honest and often complex just like each and every one of us are very complex. There is no bad guy or good guy. Just me - the heroine. And it will be completely laid out. The pretty, the ugly, the raw, the very real, sometimes funny, and the feelings in-between that can't be easily described with one word. I will dive explicitly into my experiences, even share the words I jot down daily on the subway, and bleed them out in this blog. From my encounter with Beyonce and Jay-Z's security guard on a plane to the very hard lessons I've gained on friendships as a twenty something year old. I will hold a conversation with you as if I am right next to you with a glass of Malbec in one hand, my other hand grasping your hand, and a vessel full of thoughts and ideas. I will open up to you more than you would even feel comfortable to hear. I will bring up topics, taboo or not, as it applies to my life and through my experiences, hopefully, it will help make sense of yours. And I will be here, patiently sitting here, to listen to what you'd like to share with me.

I only ask for one thing -- to keep in mind that I am far from perfect. I will never apologize for that. So let me begin there...

I am not sorry for what I am about to say from this day on. I am excited for you to join me in this journey. The same journey I began many years ago, we just took a sharp turn and the path just got a bit more interesting. 


Photos by Lynn Kim Do
October 26, 2015
Dear you -- my dearest you, I knew before I went right into the next couple steps in my life, I needed to write to you. I needed to explain. To explain the hiatus. To explain what is happening to me, and thus to Neckbreakin’ Style Dear you -- my dearest you, I knew before I went right into the next couple steps in my life, I needed to write to you. I needed to explain. To explain the hiatus. To explain what is happening to me, and thus to Neckb…

Dear you -- my dearest you,
I knew before I went right into the next couple steps in my life, I needed to write to you. I needed to explain. To explain the hiatus. To explain what is happening to me, and thus to Neckbreakin’ Style






Dear you -- my dearest you,

I knew before I went right into the next couple steps in my life, I needed to write to you. I needed to explain. To explain the hiatus. To explain what is happening to me, and thus to Neckbreakin’ Style

Life is funny. Which is probably why I find myself laughing so often. Because it’s never the big thing that completely changes you. It’s that and a series of smaller events. It is then this formless growing consciousness that drives you to take that biblical leap. That leap that everyone remembers. This growing consciousness is the aftermath of several big moments and many smaller moments. Just to name a few — I moved to New York City, lost most of my closest friends from home, ended a very serious relationship, gained some of the most amazing friends, lost a few more, maintained a few hopefully lifelong ones, traveled until I was dead broke, met my grandfather and uncles for the first time, found a deeper appreciation for my brothers, met someone special, didn’t work out, either, found myself spiritually on a bed alone in Dominican Republic, had drunken epiphanies with strangers, sober ones with friends, denied drugs in a bathroom with two girls I've never met before, and every bit in-between all of that. If I could describe it visually, it would be like two puzzle pieces clicking together, then three, then four, then twenty each arriving at an AHA moment. And so I knew. I finally understood, so clearly, my next step or few steps. 

Neckbreakin’ Style started out as fashion blog. I had all the intentions of it being more because I believed in more. But I didn’t understand it. Not yet. I didn’t know what I really wanted, which made expressing it even more difficult. Don’t be mistaken. Everything I’ve done up until this point has been and is genuine. I just placed imaginary limitations on what I talked about because of fear. The fear of the potential consequences beyond what my mind can ever wrap around or be prepared for. The very deep fear of what people may think of my friends, my family, and of all of me. And then the fear of what I would think of me.  My personal life, which I've worked so hard to straddle the line between private and public, will now just be public. But I tested that fear and wrote an intimate blog post about my mother and my grandfather. The response left an impression on me. After sitting on that for weeks, even months, after talking about it constantly with friends, people I just met, someone struck a string in me. It was so simple. He said, “Lynn, if you’re going to do something. Go all the fucking way or don’t do it at all.” Not doing it at all is not a possibility for me.

So now, now I know. I understand. Neckbreakin’ Style will become a Personal Experience blog. This blog will still have the personal style, the lifestyle, the imagery, and of course, my voice. What will change is the dialogue. Each story will be as honest and often complex just like each and every one of us are very complex. There is no bad guy or good guy. Just me - the heroine. And it will be completely laid out. The pretty, the ugly, the raw, the very real, sometimes funny, and the feelings in-between that can't be easily described with one word. I will dive explicitly into my experiences, even share the words I jot down daily on the subway, and bleed them out in this blog. From my encounter with Beyonce and Jay-Z's security guard on a plane to the very hard lessons I've gained on friendships as a twenty something year old. I will hold a conversation with you as if I am right next to you with a glass of Malbec in one hand, my other hand grasping your hand, and a vessel full of thoughts and ideas. I will open up to you more than you would even feel comfortable to hear. I will bring up topics, taboo or not, as it applies to my life and through my experiences, hopefully, it will help make sense of yours. And I will be here, patiently sitting here, to listen to what you'd like to share with me.

I only ask for one thing -- to keep in mind that I am far from perfect. I will never apologize for that. So let me begin there...

I am not sorry for what I am about to say from this day on. I am excited for you to join me in this journey. The same journey I began many years ago, we just took a sharp turn and the path just got a bit more interesting. 


Photos by Lynn Kim Do